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Let’s talk about mental health

Disclaimer: I’m not a mental health provider and this post is based on my personal opinions and experiences. If you, or someone you know, is contemplating harming yourself, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Line – 1-800-273-8255

It’s time… it’s enough. Mental health has become an epidemic in the world and in the US. Only this week, we lost two amazing people to death to suicide – the iconic Kate Spade and the larger than life Anthony Bourdain. Every year we lose more and more people because of a stigma of talking about mental health.

So… let’s get to it! Mental health is our body health – it is part of our being. There are so many ways of having mental health issues – from bipolar, Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), Autism Spectrum Disorders, several borderline spectrum disorders, depression and the list can go on.

We live in a society where status and looks mean more than substance. People are more busy portraying their “perfect” life on social media than really living their life at the fullest and cherishing what really matters – spend time with your loved ones and living a life it’s worth living. Our urge, as a society, to live a perfect life, might be making us feel we’re not worth it – make us feel we cannot really share with others our internal struggles and imperfections – as it’ll make our life, a bit less perfect. If we can’t see, we believe it’s not there. Depression does not discriminate, depression does not have a recipe. Since 1999, death by suicide has increased 25% in the USA.

Here is what I want to share with you all – I came from a family with mental disease, several of my family members have depression and treats it with medication. One of my auties and my grandmother attempted suicide. I grew up seeing those struggles around me but I never quite understood. Until I reached my teenage years – I always felt out of place – I was too tall, too brown, too different. I felt that I just did not want to wake up. I felt like my life not worth it. Every time I tried to talk with people – friends or family – I was always shut down “you don’t have depression – you’re your bubbly self. It’s just the hormones”. And I believed it. Afterall, my family and all the adults knew better. It was the hormones…

Until it was not. Today, at age of 31, I still often feel like giving up. I still feel like I wish I just could go to sleep and never wake up. No one wants to talk about that though. People want to talk about how positive, how hardworking, how bubby and eccentric I am. “Such a bubbly person cannot be depressed! Such a doer cannot be depressed.” The truth is – we can! And it’s very hard to overcome it and work through it if people choose to look at your outside and not willing to hear our inside fears and struggles.

Let’s facilitate talking honestly and openly about mental health – the same way we talk about any other diseases – let’s be open, sincere and share our experiences. Let’s cherish our victories and pull each other up when we need. Let’s live a life full of kindness, empathy, and sincerity. Let’s live a real life.

It’s time for us to start celebrating our imperfections, it’s time for us to start to listen to people – what they’re really saying and not what we want to hear. It’s time for us to really care and ask questions. It’s time for us to be there for each other. It’s time for us to see with our hearts and not only our judgmental mind. In the end, we’ll figure out we have more in common than we imagined.

Just last week, I took the leap and started therapy. It’s not easy to open up and be raw – but I’m sure this journey will be worth it. And if you’re out there, feeling alone and misunderstood, know that you’re not alone and we can get through this together. Mental health is human health. Let’s talk about it.

Disclaimer: I’m not a mental health provider and this post is based on my personal opinions and experiences. If you, or someone you know, is contemplating harming yourself, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Line – 1-800-273-8255

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2 thoughts on “Let’s talk about mental health

  1. Awwww! I’m so sorry G and I totally understand! I have depression in my family too! I also suffer from it! No ones immuned from it! I loved what you wrote. We should celebrate our imperfections and we gotta lift each other up everyday! Loves you my beautiful friend! I happen to think you’re perfect! HUGE hugs!

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